Should you disclose that you conceived with donor eggs?  This is a loaded question and many persons have strong views in support of secret egg donation or divulging such facts.  Some aspects to consider in respect of sharing your egg donation conception are noted below.

 

Consideration of egg donation may be after a long time of coming to terms with the fact that the recipient will need to embark on an egg donation process.  This can be a difficult decision to accept, but once clarity on this aspect is obtained, the next crucial decision is selecting a professional egg donor agent, finding the right egg donor and then deciding on whether the secret egg donation will between recipients or also with the family and egg donation child.

 

Most South Africans do not want to share the egg donor conception aspect with their family.  They want to keep the egg donation process as confidential as possible, so they select a well matched egg donor and want to forget about the egg donation aspect shortly after the pregnancy is confirmed.  These egg donation recipients feel that life is filled with sufficient complexities and do not want to exacerbate anything further. In countries, like South Africa, where egg donation is a relatively new field, the concept of donor eggs is not frequently discussed and people are still taking their time to absorb this new advanced fertility process.

 

The other view is that it is right to share as much information with your child as is possible.  Ethnicity, origin and the truth are all what matters.  These egg donation recipients do not support the secret egg donation.  For them, they feel that the child will be more at peace knowing the full background.

 

At the end of the day, this is a personal decision.  Recently a psychologist who specialises in egg donor assessments advised that egg donation recipients should consider how they would like to be advised if they were an egg donor child.  The reality is that on a recent TV show where baby2mom represented egg donation in South Africa, egg donor recipients elected not to come forward and share their story on national TV, but egg donors were happy to show their faces.

 

baby2mom Egg Donation Agency, is an online egg donor agency, with extensive experience in egg donation programs.  Enforcing South African legislation, where secret egg donation is undertaken and an egg donor agent keeps this information strictly confidential.  It is the perogative of the egg donation recipient to share the facts.  The same is true for egg donors.  Read more on www.baby2mom.co.za